Baby’s First Herbal Bath


I am so proud to announce that my little boy was born earlier this month on January 8th. As my readers know it was a nearly 3 year long journey to conceive and finally birth this little guy. His name is Jasper Layne Bradley and he decided to make himself known 3 weeks in advance of my due date at 36 weeks and 4 days.

As birth plans go ours didn’t go exactly according to plan. Because he was considered late pre-term I ended up having to be in the hospital instead of the Nurse Midwifery Birthing Center. I was really against having to go to the hospital due to the environment and the decisions we would have to make about what we did and did not want the nurses to give us during our stay. Turns out it went wonderfully well, the staff at Riverbend were considerate of our choices and understanding of our situation.

I was able to have a normal vaginal birth and the only drugs I had to be on was penicillin since my GBS culture had not completed its 7 day growth period. My water broke the night before and I experienced a mild and slow labor up until 5:30 PM the next day. After 5:30 PM I went immediately into active labor and less than 3 hours later Jasper came quickly into this world. So quick in fact I almost didn’t have a midwife or doctor attending.

My labor journey was amazing and I am so grateful to be able to have that experience and come out well on the other end. I clearly remember being in the middle of it and thinking “Wow, I could never ask for or want to be on drugs.” This was mainly because I didn’t associate the surges with pain but rather intensity and knew I would lose out on so much if I became numbed out.

Jasper is growing steadily and now weighs over 7 pounds (birth weight was 5 pounds 11 ounces). He is a kind and gentle soul but also is quite clear in ‘articulating’ his needs!

I finally decided it was time to give him a bath since I had decided not to wash off all of the protective coating he received from birth. Instead of using a soap based bath I chose to do an herbal one.

First I simply made an infusion in a quart jar using equal parts of chamomile, lavender, and rose buds. Then I put water in the baby bath and added the tea mixture to it. He smelled amazing! The calming, soothing, and astringent quality of the herbs helped him to relax and soothe his crazy infant acne.

I am continuing to use herbal based baby products and will blog those recipes as I go along.

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The Twelve Things I Wish I Knew Before I Started Trying to Conceive

After launching my rather lengthy story chronicling my journey to conceive I came up with a shorter list of the top things I wish I had done or known about before starting that quest. So here is a bit of a follow up for those of you who like lists or not reading tomes.

It does not always take just one time! In fact the window for a women’s egg to be fertilized each month is very tiny. Only 30% of women get pregnant within the first cycle.

Be ready emotionally, spiritually, and physically There are many forces out there that may help prevent conception and not just physically. Address emotional concerns within yourself and with your partner before you begin trying. Release fears, doubt, or childhood trauma which will also allow you to be a more open parent as well.

Get Taking Charge of Your Fertility In fact I wish I had started this type of charting when I first started bleeding at 13 years old! This book not only addresses how to get pregnant but also how to avoid it. I cannot even begin to describe how much I learned about myself, my anatomy, and conventional myths about reproductive health. Learning your cycles well before starting to conceive will cut down on the time it takes to get there and red flag any potential problems before you spend year(s) waiting to talk to your doctor about infertility issues. Visit the website for more information: Taking Charge of Your Fertility

Have your male partner tested sooner than later It is true that ruling out any male fertility issues is much easier than with women. The trick is to get your partner to get the test in first place. We learned that it is best to get the test through your partner’s practitioner rather than on your own (i.e. at Planned Parenthood) as the results come much faster and you have someone to analyze and/or refer you to a specialist.

Get a hormonal test if you have any hormonal imbalance concerns Getting your hormones tested is a quick and generally easy blood test. This way you can find any potential red flags that can help you understand where the is a potential imbalance. I highly encourage people to not reach automatically for the Clomid but instead work with someone who will work to correct the basic imbalance naturally such as with a naturopath, herbalist, and even through nutritional changes.

Know when you ovulate! This is where the charting comes in. Because there is such a small window of time when actual conception takes place and every woman has a different time for ovulation (not all are 14 days!) then knowing your window will allow you to get pregnant. This should be determined before you begin trying – not 2 years after trying (as in my case).

Patience Sometimes it just takes awhile.

Use diet, exercise, herbs, and other non-invasive treatments before drugs or fertility treatment No really start here first! Unless you know for a fact that you have a major fertility issue that can only be helped by intense fertility treatment the majority of fertility issues are basic underlying health imbalances. You need to be in top shape before your body wants to reproduce. This will also mitigate pregnancy and fetal issues once conception takes place.

Do your research Be in the know about fertility myths and facts. Understand how synthetic hormone treatment works and what side affects they may have on your body. Don’t just assume that the conventional way is the right way.

Be aware that most insurance companies do NOT pay for fertility treatment Fertility treatment for women is simply mostly not covered. You may be lucky to have the insurance that does cover some of it -most women go into extreme debt as fertility treatment is insanely expensive.

Understand your own family history Speak with your mother and grandmother or find the information about any of their possible fertility or pregnancy issues. Your doctor will be asking these questions anyway once you are pregnant. Many times these issues can be genetic.

No expectations This was a big one for me and I had to learn it by completing a 4 day vision quest to get it through my head. Let go. Everyone is different and your journey is your own.

These are just some of my learned experiences and I am sure I had many more lessons and other women have even more lessons to pass on. Above all though have fun and love making love. Sometimes being so exact can take the magic out of conceiving with your loved one so my hope that all of this work can be accomplished before a couple gets to the point of automatic love making. Listen to your body, she is wise beyond her years.

My Journey to Conception

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Over two and half years ago my husband and I embarked on what i knew was going to be a crazy adventure but had no way of knowing the course it would take to get where I am now. On the first of February, 2012 we decided to start a family and now on the first of February 2015 that small hope will become a reality.

Matt and I had already been together and married for over 5 years and in those last 2 years my clock had begun to tick louder and louder. Baby stuff would come up here and there and we would have minor discussions of if and when but knew we just weren’t ready to make that dive just yet. Matt wanted our home and income to be stable and l just needed the acknowledgement from myself and he that this would hopefully one day occur. I had an enormous stigma about pregnancy through years of fear of getting pregnant too young, having an wanted pregnancy, or feelings of judgment by others. A small part of me knew that I would need to overcome these ingrained thoughts and accept the beauty and want of conceiving and having a child.

I had many expectations of what I thought I knew about getting pregnant and was beside myself that very first night we tried. Everything that I had been taught had been drilled into me: “it only takes once!” “If you don’t use protection you’ll get pregnant” among other phrases to scare me into being extremely cautious and convinced that it would take no time. Not to mention that I was a surprise to my own parents. I never allowed myself to think that this could actually take time.

This became a reality after the first month of trying had gone by and the second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth! I began to get nervous. This was not meeting my preconceived expectations. Was there something wrong with me, with him? Of course all of the information you get is if you are under 35 years of age then you don’t need to seek help until a year of trying. A year! Twelve months of depressing agony every time my cycle comes round and I don’t know why?! I tried to go in at 6 months just because I always had a certain feeling that maybe there was something preventing me from being able to conceive.

My mother had severe endometriosis and the doctor’s still scratch their heads as to how she had her children at all. This is technically genetic and I could fairly easily have this issue. But the doctor I visited was not ready to perform any tests and said “Just keep trying.” I was pissed.

I began to go to a Naturopathic Doctor convinced I would find something wrong with me. She did find that my progesterone levels were too low along with my cortisol. All of these hormones are interconnected and if one is off that can and does lead to reproductive imbalances including infertility. I began a regiment of heavy duty licorice extract (which if in strong enough form is basically a drug) and a pre-progesterone extract. At the same time I decided to visit my herbalist as I was dealing with minor weight issues, frequent migraines, and hypoglycemia. After a month of the naturopathic supplements my condition worsened exponentially where I was barely able to function the majority of the month.

My herbalist finally knocked some sense into me. I definitely have a hormonal imbalance issue reproductive and otherwise, however I had to look at my issues in a different light. Giving myself hormones whether naturopathic or allopathically is only throwing a band-aid on the crux of the issue. Once I start giving myself these hormones, over time my body will not see the need to produce them herself. I would perhaps reach my goal of getting pregnant if the hormones were the issue in the first, but I would have just created a whole new set of problems and my body would not be balanced naturally.

What I needed to address and correct was my basic health so I could begin on firm ground and adjust from there. I didn’t need to jump right into fixing my reproductive hormones but rather the more distressing issue of my sugar and digestive imbalance. Everything is connected in the body and if I am having insulin issues then that will certainly throw off everything else.

More and more I realized this was going to be a long haul and I needed to get myself in line before I even considered bringing another human being on board.

For the next year and a half I worked through herbs, diet, and exercise to recreate a healthy base line. Working with my liver and yes even some reproductive herbs to begin a balance, and ensuring adequate protein intake my symptoms began to disappear. My sugar lows and crashes dwindled to maybe one or two a month, my headaches were nearly gone, and my energy levels balanced out all within 4 months. I began biking to and from work 13 miles a day and watched my body tone and brighten. Magnesium, Vitamin B, and Fish Oil supplementation also helped kick things into gear and I was the healthiest I had ever been.

By the end of 2013 I was a new person. Fit, healthy, no recurring health problems and kept to my regiment with blinding faith. Come February 2014 I hit the 2 year mark of trying to conceive. I was officially infertile and was becoming depressed again now completely convinced there was something wrong with me physically.

We had of course checked out Matt and his sperm count was lower than normal but according to the doctor not low enough to be of any real concern. The only likely culprit for him was an unknown reason for hormonal imbalance. Matt doesn’t drink alcohol, smoke, work near chemicals (in fact he works in our house or outdoors), and so I decided to whip him up a male reproductive tincture focusing especially on his liver to help correct whatever issue might be there.

My gynecologist was stumped and said after 2 years you should have conceived by now. It’s time for further tests. Guess what most of those tests aren’t covered under insurance! We couldn’t even afford the first test they wanted to try and the fertility center requires a $600.00 deposit just to be seen for the first time. I was beyond frustrated. I wanted to conceive without the need for intervention and without the need to dish out thousands of dollars even before there was even the possibility of a child. We broke down in March and scheduled our fertility center appointment. I remember telling Matt “we need a miracle”.

Now at the beginning of 2014 I decided to finally try a couple of things that for whatever reason I was dragging my feet about doing. After all this time I only sort of knew when I ovulated. A high school friend of mine suggested an incredible book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler.

I knew that charting, temping, and checking cervical fluid was helpful but I just couldn’t get my head out of my ass to actually try! Well I tried it and was blown away by the information I could glean about my own body, the actual knowledge of how my system was working, and well taking charge! I have to convince myself not to go to “what if I had actually done this when I first started trying” because I would drive myself insane.

The author of the book said that if I didn’t get results within the first 4 months of trying then it would be best to seek further assistance. The first month went by, second, third, and the fourth. We even purchased that pre-seed lube to see if maybe we could help out these little swimmers a bit. I poured over the forum attached to the book online and read positive and not so positive stories. I read my chart over and over and was diligent about temperature taking. Also around this time I started charting I decided to try Susun Weed’s fertility tea blend of Raspberry Leaf, Red Clover Blossoms, and Stinging Nettle. I drank this infusion by the quart every day.

Then as the fourth month was about to slip by I noticed some strange things around the time I was supposed to bleed. I didn’t get the regular cervical mucous color- change that I see when I am about to start and I distinctly remember feeling very odd cramping right where my uterus should be – it was almost imperceptible and I was 2 days late.

Now I have been convinced SO many times before and never allow my mind and heart to hope. But this seemed different. Finally I had Matt take me to the store to get some tests because I never had them on hand (I hated taking those things) and came directly home to pee on a stick. This was evening time and I knew it was better to test in the morning but I bought two boxes so thought I would try again in the AM if it was negative.

A strange thing happened though. Where there is usually one horizontal line I began to see the faintest outline of a vertical one intersecting the first. I thought I was seeing things — but then it grew darker, and darker until I was staring at + sign. I calmly walked out of the bathroom, found Matt and said “Could you help me interpret this?” As calm as ever he said “Well, looks like a plus sign.” I honestly was in shock and just started laughing. Laughing at all of the lessons I had learned on this journey, laughing at the pain and heartache, and laughing from joy and fear that it was now a reality.

I am celebrating my 6 month mark this week. My goal of conceiving and bringing myself to healthy level with only herbs was achieved. I have had so far no complications and am radiating with health and that pregnancy-glow (or so I am told). I don’t know if there ever was physical problem and may never know and will probably never know why exactly it took so long. But I am glad it did. I have learned about myself and as the lifelong student that I am I now can take these experiences and help out the women in my community. There is still a fairly long road ahead until that day I can deliver this little bundle but I can take the time to feel proud and grateful for this journey.